Perspective


February stretches long and gray around here. March does, too.

If I’m not careful, I can be sucked right into its vortex, down, down, down into a web of “why-do-I-live-here’s” and “if-only’s.”

I find myself irritable and too often looking ahead instead of sitting right here, right now. Making excuses for my behavior instead of looking for ways to improve my attitude.

I know a woman who has, for many years, allowed the weather to control her. She plots her escape, daily. 

She is the most miserable person I know.

How do I not become that? How do I not see days of gray unending and not become a bitter, miserable person? How do I find joy in the gray out my window?



Yesterday, Ann Voskamp wrote this: Everyone gets to decide how happy they want to be. Because everyone gets to decide how grateful they are willing to be.
We get to decide our happiness. God has given us the tools—everything we need is right there in front of us. It’s up to us to choose happiness, joy, gratitude or bitterness, complaint, misery.

I choose happiness.

Because this day, this gray, dreary, cold, rainy day has been given to me to use well. Today I choose to write, to have lunch with friends, to sit with my daughter in a quiet room without distractions.

And on this gray, dreary, cold, rainy day, I visit with a dear friend who is housebound for twelve weeks. Twelve weeks! No weight on her foot. At all.

Do you ever go stir-crazy? I ask.

She smiles her sweet, cheerful smile and says, No. I have plenty to do here. I just figure this is what God has for me right now, in this season.

Does she ever look at the clouds? Maybe, but she chooses otherwise.

She chooses joy.

Ann also says that after choosing happiness, we get to decide how willing we are to be grateful. Still counting, that Ann.

So today, I choose to be grateful.

For my work.

For a quiet office.

For friendships that span decades.

For perspective.


Thanksgiving Challenge - Day 24

"And the Word became flesh and dwelt among us, and we have seen his glory, glory as of the only Son from the Father, full of grace and truth." John 1:14
Today I am most thankful for the Incarnation. The Word became flesh.

As we enter this Christmas season, my prayer is that my eyes would see Him, my ears would listen to Him, my heart would be attuned to Him, and my words would glorify Him.

Happy Thanksgiving to all.

Shelly

Thanksgiving Challenge - Day 23

This guy.



The light of my life.

The one who challenges me, encourages me, fights with me, and helps me see the world in a new way.

My husband of 26 years, 3 children, 8 residences, and countless trips. He knows my heart and loves me still.

He puts up with my lust for travel when he would much rather be fishing.



And that, my friends, is true love.

I'm thankful that God gave him to me those many years ago, and I'm thankful that we both look forward to the adventures God has in store for the next 26 years. Together.

Shelly

Thanksgiving Challenge - Day 19

OK, I'm a little late in posting. So sue me.

I'm still thankful for several things today yesterday.

1. I'm thankful that the cold I thought I was getting when I woke up didn't materialize and ruin my day. I guess that makes me thankful for Zicam, too.

2. I'm thankful that I had energy to tackle the grocery store(s) yesterday and that the lines weren't as bad as I thought they would be. I'm also thankful that I got my shopping done early--College girl is coming home on Monday, you know!

3. Most of all, I'm thankful that after weeks of trying, the five of us actually managed to find 30 minutes together in front of a camera for our Christmas card picture (thanks, Ginny!). Despite the most unfortunate sweater selection on my part (hello?! looking pregnant much?!), we did manage to find something to use for our cards this year.

4. I'm thankful that after a two-year hiatus, Christmas cards will actually be sent this year. I'll be even more thankful if I get a card or two in return.

So even on the most ordinary of days, I'm learning that I have a lot to be thankful for. I'm loving this daily exercise.

How about you? What can you share today?

Shelly

Thanksgiving Challenge - Day 18

Being in the middle is not easy. Trust me, I know.

You're always being compared either up or down, and you hardly ever just get to be you.

But if you're determined and smart and fiercely independent, you'll make your own path in this world.

Just ask this one.



The middle one. The one who will be leaving her mama in a puddle of tears next year. The one who knows herself at 17 so much more than I did at that age. The one who makes me want to be better.

The one I'm thankful for today.

Shelly

Thanksgiving Challenge - Day 17

This week I'm doing tutorials with each of my students which is basically a 15 minute, one-on-one meeting to discuss their next paper. Today I met with 10 students, and I have to say that I'm thankful for each and every one of them. Even the 28 I didn't meet with today.

My students are diverse and interesting and thoughtful.

Some say thank you after every class.

Some fall asleep.

I have learned a lot from my students (I hope they can say the same of me), and I have enjoyed them immensely.

Most days.

No matter what, though, they have given me a new reason to get up in the morning (at 5:45!) and have made me realize yet again that I am a teacher at heart.

What about you? What are YOU thankful for today?


Shelly

Thanksgiving Challenge - Day 14

Things did not go so well in class today. Let's just say that technology is not my friend.

But even though a large portion of my day did not go as planned (lesson planned, get it?!), I still have lots to be thankful for:

- a chance to get to the grocery store . . . and money to pay for the food we need. I saw a woman in the store who seemed like she could barely afford the can of soup she was buying and it made me want to cry.

- time to hang out with my girls.

- garbage pick up.

- a husband who likes to come home to us every night.

- joy in a student's eye.

Shelly

Thanksgiving Challenge - Day 13

So much to be thankful for today.

- Church. I love my church and am so thankful for those who serve so faithfully there.

- Ministry. We serve in a ministry we love, outside of our church, called Missionary Furlough Homes. The foundation owns 18 townhomes here, and we offer them to missionaries on furlough for a very reasonable rate. We serve as houseparents to one unit--it's a perfect fit for our family and one I'm grateful for.

- Family. Everyone in our family was scattered hither and yon this weekend, but we're all back where we're supposed to be tonight. I'm thankful for journey mercies for all of us over the past few days.

- Friends. We went to dinner tonight with some wonderful friends, two of whom met in my class a loooonnng time ago, and one of whom claims to be my biggest fan. I don't have the heart to tell her that I'm not worth fanning over, but I love that she reads here.

We are blessed beyond belief, and it's been great to count them all this month. I can't wait to see what the Lord has in store for us this week.

So tell me, what blessings are YOU counting this weekend?


Shelly

Thanksgiving Challenge - Day 10

Her.


The one with the sweet little face that still looks like a baby when she sleeps but reminds me almost daily that in almost two short months she will be 14 . . . and able to wear makeup (because that's a family ritual that I don't have time to tell you about now, but if you remind me nicely I'll tell you later).

This girl.


The one who was in her school play this week and who might have felt like, as an 8th grader, a school play is becoming just a wee bit juvenile for her but didn't complain . . . too much; she just learned her lines and executed them in the way that only she could.

My youngest.

The one who gave me fits and made me lose my voice a time or two when she was younger but who has blossomed into just about the sweetest girl God ever made.


The one who makes me proud.

The one who makes me happy.

The one who makes me thankful.


Shelly

Thanksgiving Challenge - Day 9

Some days you just have to be thankful that you held it together. And that's where I sit right now. Because, let me tell you, holding it together is not my strong suit. Especially when I'm feeling frustrated or disappointed combined with weary and weak.

So today I am thankful that, despite everything in me that wanted to scream at one of my classes today, I held it together.

Barely.

Now, please redeem my feeble attempts at thankfulness and tell me what YOU'RE thankful for today.

Shelly