Letter to my 16-year-old self




Emily at Chatting at the Sky released a new book this week titled Graceful. It’s a book for teenage girls (right up my alley!), and in honor of the new book she thought it might be neat for bloggers to write letters to their 16-year-old selves.

(Neat? Really? Who even says that any more?)

Anyway, it took a while to conjure up images of way back then, but once I got into it, this was really fun. Hope you enjoy this blast into my past!


Dear Me,

It’s hard to even remember you back then. Tall (you reached your full 5’ 9” height in 8th grade), lanky (check out those legs!), and feeling more insecure than pretty much anybody else around you.

These are some things I wish you had known back then. But then again, isn’t hindsight always 20/20?

1. Life isn't always easy, is it? Sorrow and loneliness seem to be your closest companions, but they don’t have to be. Stop relying on yourself so much and let others in. Stop fighting with your sisters and make friends with them instead. Life would be a whole lot easier with a couple of advocates on your side.

2. You feel like a fish out of water in high school. You wish you had more friends, but making friends is hard. Don’t worry. College is coming, and you’ll make the best friends of your life there.

3. You so want a boy to like you. Any boy. Don’t waste so much time and emotional energy on that—it really isn’t worth it. Besides, you won’t marry a boy from high school (thank goodness!). You’ll wait for the right one, and you won’t even recognize him when he’s right under your nose. (You’re kinda dumb about boys. Sorry.)

4. You really want to make people happy. This is a good thing and a bad thing. You’re going to have to try to figure out when it’s worth it and when it’s not.

5. Watch your parents carefully. They’ve been through a lot, and still, they really know how to love.

6. You’re really skinny—enjoy it while you can, but don’t make that your identity. It won’t last.


7. Keep reading. Keep dreaming. And talk to Grandpa Earl about his travels because some day soon you will go to England, and it will change your life forever.


 8. That one time? After a football game with your friends? Do. Not. Go. So not worth it.

9. Oh, and the hair? Just don’t ever go there again either.


10. You really love Jesus, but you feel like there’s something you should DO to make Him love you back. There isn’t. Not one thing. He already loves you more than you know. Unfortunately, it’s going to take a long time before you get that. I wish you could get that now and rest in it forever.

Despite all of this fairly harsh criticism of you, I have to say that you’ve turned out pretty well. You have learned a few things along the way, you’ve become friends with your sisters, and best of all, you’ve let God take over.

You're in for a lot of great adventures--you'll go places, meet people, and do things that you can't possibly dream about right now. 

You’ve had a good life, dear Me. A really, really blessed life.


Shelly

5 Minutes for Mom Ultimate Blog Party

Ultimate Blog Party 2011

It might be April Fool's Day, but this is no joke. It really IS a party with about 2,000 bloggers linking up at 5 Minutes for Mom. So glad you've joined me.

Come on in! Take a look around. And by all means, make yourself at home. Kick your shoes off if you want to--I always do. Here in this little corner of the cyber world it's all about being yourself, being real, and chilling together for a few minutes.

What do I write about? Faith, family, and food, mostly. With a bit of travel thrown in for good measure.

Faith. First and foremost I hope you'll see that I'm all about Jesus. I hope He shines through the pages of this blog, whether He's mentioned in name or not . . . He's here. A couple of my favorite faith posts are Generosity and In Which I Apologize to my Dad.

Family. The title of my blog is a play on our last name, but it also has come to symbolize what we're about. Yes, it's a crazy, wild life with three teenage girls, but it's an adventure full of fun. I write about parenting quite a bit because I'm passionate about doing this better. A couple of my favorite parenting posts are Dabbling? and a series I did last year called Intentional Parenting. Oh, and last week I wrote a post titled How Your Daughter Dresses Matters that got quite the reaction. Yea!

Food. I love food! I love to cook it and I love to eat it. I'm passionate about making great meals that are simple yet delicious, so every Friday I'll give you one of our family's favorite recipes in my Fabulous Friday Food post. A couple of the most popular Fabulous Friday Food posts have been my Homemade Spaghetti Sauce and Honey Whole Wheat Bread.

Travel. This is where I have FUN!! I love to explore new parts of the world and I've had lots of adventures over the years. I'm grateful for an understanding husband who puts up with my wanderlust. Over the past few years I've written about taking two of my daughters to England on separate occasions and about a family missions trip to Switzerland. But we stay in the States as well. Tuesday is usually my travel day to write about travel.

I have had so much fun meeting new blogging friends over the past three years, but there is always room for more. Please FOLLOW me and join in on my everyday adventures!

Now for the good stuff. Because I'm greedy and because I'm lonely over here and because I really want you to follow me, I'm giving away a $25 gift card to Anthropologie (one of my favorite places!) to one lucky commenter . . . BUT ONLY IF I REACH 150 FOLLOWERS! So here's where you come in. If you don't already follow me, DO IT (and leave a comment letting me know)! I think you'll be glad you did. If you DO already follow me (and I thank you for that!), Tweet my challenge, or put in on Facebook, or pass the word around however you do it. Then come back and leave me a comment letting me know you did that. (One comment per person, please.)

I'll announce the winner of a random drawing from the comments on Thursday, April 7.

Thanks for playing--and for following!

Five Minutes

I'm linking up with Lisa-Jo today for Five Minute Friday. Today's theme--what happened in your week this week?

Well . . . you all know what happened in my week this week--my personal email got hacked. I have more than five minutes worth of thoughts about all this, but I thought I'd quickly jot down five lessons I learned when my email got hacked.

One minute for each. And then, I promise, I'll be done with this episode.

*Start*

1. Having your email hacked is a pain. And stressful. Just last night I was looking for some information for a trip I'm taking next week and, of course, the email was gone. I had no idea what time my flight was. Or even which airport I was supposed to go to. And it put me into a stressful funk which I then imposed on my whole family.

They sent me away for the evening.

2. Having your email hacked feels like a violation. Because it IS. Somebody came into my "home" and stole a bunch of important stuff from me. And not only that, they took all my friends with them. I can't shake the feeling that I've been robbed.

3. There are a lot of evil people sitting in front of their computers right now. As I write, I'm sitting in Panera, and there are a lot of people sitting in front of their computers (thanks, Panera, for the free wifi!). I wonder which one of these people is a hacker. And if you're one of the ones trying to hack into my friends' email account or trying to fill my blog with spam comments, just do me a favor and get a real job.

4. There are a lot of good people out there too.
I have been so humbled and amazed by the number of people who took the time to check in on us. Most knew that the "Help!" email they got from us was a hoax, but they just wanted to check in on us anyway to make sure. What wonderful friends we have.

5. Change your passwords. If there's anything I have learned from this experience that I want to pass along to you it is this. We had not changed our passwords in two or three years (I'm embarrassed to admit this), and that's what hackers look for. I learned from AT&T security that we should change our passwords every six months. A pain, to be sure, but also very, very essential.

*Stop*

There. I'm now officially done talking about the hacker on my blog.

Be sure to come back later, though, because I'm going to post a quick and EASY dessert you can serve on Valentine's Day. I promise it's easy--only three ingredients.

Now tell me, what happened in YOUR week this week?

Shelly

2010 Recap



He y'all (I'm a Southerner now since I'm posting this from the heart of the South)! I know I said I wouldn't be posting this week, but I couldn't stay away. Especially since my friend, Jo-Lynne, is hosting a 2010 Recap blog party.

The idea is that we're supposed to take the first line from the first post of every month and link to that post. That way you can go back and read through the year and some of the fun we've had around here. So here are my contributions. If you'd like to see more blog recaps, head over to Musings of a Housewife.

JANUARY

"I spent a lot of time this week looking back, but today I think I'll look forward."

My first post of the year looked at all the stuff I already KNEW I'd be doing in 2010--travelling quite a bit, watching one daughter graduate from high school and start college, watching the others grow up immensely. But I had no idea about some of the fun ways God would surprise me throughout the year.

Makes me excited for 2011.

FEBRUARY

"Shhhh. We snuck (is that a word?) away for the weekend."

This was a Travel Tuesday post (remember those? I used to do them fairly frequently.) about my grown-up trip to Park City, UT with my hubby and some friends. What a great weekend that was!

MARCH

Truth-be-told, I’m tired as I write this post. I’ve had a long weekend.

Oh gee, what a terrible first line! If I were grading my own paper I'd probably say something like "How does this make me want to read any further?" Ugh.

Anyway, this post was Part 5 of my "Intentional Parenting" series--probably one of the areas of my blog from 2010 of which I am most proud. You all gave me such great feedback, for which I'm so grateful. I'm working on developing these ideas further in 2011.

APRIL

“So how was your Valentine’s Day?” my sweet friend Meghan asked me this week.

O.K., I'm trying to figure out how I posted about Valentine's Day in April, but I think it was a re-post or something. I have no idea. Just goes to show you how unprofessional I am about this blogging thing.

Anyway, this is a very funny post showing you the real ins-and-outs and intricacies of our marriage. My favorite thing about this post is its title: "You'd think that after 25 years of marriage we'd be better at it."

MAY


"Every Saturday morning from mid-April through October, our town holds a French Market."

This was an I'm-getting-excited-about-summer post that highlighted one of my favorite Saturday traditions--going to the French Market in our town. Now that it's the dead of winter, it's kind of nice to look back on this and realize that winter won't last forever . . . even though it feels like it might.

JUNE

"Twenty-five years of . . ."

Our anniversary is on June 1 (every year!), and this one was special. When we got married I couldn't even imagine how it would feel to be married to B for 25 years, but looking back, it's like the blink of an eye.

JULY

"Sometimes I follow a recipe. Sometimes."

Somewhere around mid-year I decided to incorporate regular recipes into my blog, hence "Fabulous Friday Food." I love sharing recipes and even though some people might think that's a little hokey, I have heard from more than a few of you that you kind of like my recipes too. But I'd love to know, should I keep going with this?

AUGUST

"My oldest, Kate, leaves for college today."


I'm so glad this post came up because it's one of my favorites of the entire year. Sending your first child off to college is a pretty big deal. You really do wonder if they're ready for the challenge. Here's how I knew Kate was ready.

SEPTEMBER

"I'm in a funk this week."

This was a great post to read again--all about how life's curveballs can throw me into a funk and how on earth do I get out of it? Psalm 45 has a good answer.

OCTOBER

"It's pumpkin time and I couldn't be happier."

Another recipe. This one's for pumpkin squares which are, if I may say it, yummy!

NOVEMBER

"Don't you just love that Allstate commercial that's on right now? That guy who plays Mayhem and drives all over town creating a ruckus?"


Needless to say, life in 2010 has been full. And wonderful. And tons and tons of fun. Here's just a glimpse into one weekend.

DECEMBER

"So, I really haven’t told you anything about our Thanksgiving yet."

Just a little Thanksgiving recap, but this post really made me chuckle. And judging by some of your comments, it made you chuckle too.

Thanks for laughing along with me and my "wild" life in 2010. I'm so glad you have all come along for the ride (and if you'd like to invite your friends to this little party for 2011, I'd be more than honored!). Like I said earlier, I really am excited to see what God has in store for 2011. I hope you'll stick around to see what happens.

Shelly

Top Ten Tuesday - Class Reunion Edition

O.K., guys, it's been a wild few days. But, hey, it's been an adventure! I'm working on a post about the reunion weekend, but today I thought I'd just give you a list.

The top 10 things I loved about my class reunion.

1. The Anticipation. Believe it or not, I actually LIKE getting my house ready to have guests. I like thinking about meals. And I had a great time "fallifying" my house.

And it sure didn't hurt when these showed up on the very day my friends arrived.



Thanks, Jen and E!

2. Hugs. Just a natural reaction to seeing someone you haven't seen in nearly 25 years.

3. The food. One banquet. One tailgate BBQ. Lots of breakfasts. What can I say? I'm all about the food!



4. Class photos. This takes time and patience, but it also means you never know who you'll run into. I saw people there that I didn't see for the rest of the weekend. And one friend who lives right here whom I never get to see!

5. Our Freshman Floor. It was amazing to see so many girls who were on my floor freshman year. I guess that just goes to show that 1 West truly is the Best!

6. Powder Puff Football. That's Kate, looking tough and playing in her first Powder Puff game EVER.



She had fun . . . until she got crushed underneath another girl and her hip popped out of its socket. We're working on that one.

7. Seeing old boyfriends. Eh, not so much.

8. Hearing stories. At our banquet on Saturday night, we had a time of sharing that was really special. It was wonderful to see how God has carried so many of our classmates through some really rough storms. That's what it's really all about.

9. The pictures. Oh my! Throughout the weekend we were treated to several video montages of old pictures from college days. The hair! And those fair isle sweaters! We were prepsters, what can I say?

Each of our nametags sported our senior picture, too. Despite the fuzzy quality of this photo, I thought you'd enjoy seeing the Dorothy Hamill haircut in all it's glory.



10. The Anticipation. Again. Now that we've gotten back in touch, many of us have decided that we can't wait another 25 years to get together. And now that most of our kids are older it's easier to get away. We had fun dreaming and scheming about how and when we could next see each other. Love that!

So that's my weekend in a nutshell. More to come tomorrow.

How was YOUR weekend? What do you miss about your college friends?

Today I'm linking up with Top Ten Tuesday at Oh Amanda!

Shelly

I'm Getting Sick So I'm Totally Stealing Ideas Today




Because I have a sore throat today (most likely the cold B brought back from Seattle last week) and because I'm putting off going to the gym today (should you really go to the gym when you feel terrible anyway?) and because I am out of ideas right now, I'm totally stealing an idea from Mary's blog from last week.

Mary stole it from someone else, so I feel completely justified.

Anyway, it was supposed to be a week-long blogging challenge to jump-start your blog, but Mary condensed a week's worth of challenges into one. She's a go-getter, that Mary.

Never one to be outdone, I thought I'd try the same challenge. So here we go. Cue fast-moving, challenging, frenzied music.

Monday's Challenge: Re-upload the first post you ever wrote on your blog.

"Yes, Another Mom Blog" was my first post in which I started to apologize for clogging the internet with yet another "Mom" blog, but then going on to tell you why I didn't care because my blog is all about me, me, me. Self-absorbed much?

Tuesday's Challenge: Re-upload a post you wish more people had read and explain why it was important to you.

Off the top of my head I would say that every post is one that I wish more people had read. I'm all about getting more readers.

But seriously, I think it would have to be this post I wrote about the woman with whom I shared a hospital room a few years ago. This was one of the most difficult times in my life, and yet the woman I knew very little about was going through something much worse.

Wednesday's Challenge: Re-upload a post with a title that you are particularly proud of and explain why.

"You'd think after 25 years of marriage we'd be better at it" was the title of a post I wrote last spring spilling all the silly ugliness of our random arguments. Totally meant to be a humorous picture of an imperfect relationship.

"It's All Kinds of Crazy Out There" is a title I liked, and still like, because it seems to sum up my feelings about the world today. Crazy. Nuts. Insane. All apply.

Thursday's Challenge: Write a new post about a woman who inspires you.

Yeah, well, that may have to wait for another day. I will have to give this one some serious thought, but just off the top of my head, all you moms who manage to juggle kids and a job-outside-the-home and church life and everything else--these are some of my heroes.

Friday's Challenge: As your last assignment to jump start your return to blogging, write about what blogging means to you. Why do you blog? What purpose does it serve you and how have you benefited from sharing a piece of yourself online this way?

Since I never really left blogging, do I still have to answer this question?

Actually, going back to read my first post has helped me see that I have grown and changed a lot in the past two-and-a-half years. I have seen how much GOOD blogs can do by reading the Compassion bloggers posts and by reading Kristen's posts about how her trip to Africa has changed her. Just last night I was telling B about her Mercy House project which is totally amazing to me.

I have friends who think they just don't have time for blogs, who really have no interest at all. That's O.K. But I have seen all the good that can be accomplished through blogs. I've personally experienced growth by reading inspirational blogs like Lysa TerKeurst's every day. I've made new friends who are a tremendous source of encouragement to me. And I hope I've been able to encourage a few people along the way.

God is using blogs, and it's wonderful and powerful to see.

Looking back on that embarrassing first post, I hope that my blog becomes less about me (although I'll still be writing about our wild life!) and more about the God who is there through it all. And I hope that this blog reflects Him more than it reflects me.

I'd love to know . . . what are some blogs that inspire you? Make you laugh? Teach you something new?

Shelly

Blog Hop '10


If you're here from Robin's Blog Hop, welcome! If you just somehow randomly turned up here, welcome! If you're intentionally here, well, thank you--you're the best!

In order to keep this short (*ahem*, Robin!) I'll just give you the basics about me:

WHO am I? A mom of three daughters and wife to my college sweetie. I love to read, write, and travel. I formerly worked as an adjunct professor, a marketing professional, and a fundraiser. Even though I'm now considered a stay-at-home mom, I'm rarely here. I may be travelling. I may be speaking to a women's group. I may be attending a conference. But whatever I'm doing, I'm trying to do to the best of the abilities God has given me.

WHAT do I write about? Life. Travel. My family. Parenting. Cooking. Christianity.

WHERE do I live? In the Chicago suburbs. I love it here.

WHEN do I write? Mornings, usually. I don't do nights very well.

WHY is my Life on the Wild Side? I have three teenage daughters, need I say more? And one crazy dog. And my philosophy really is that "Every day is an adventure!"

So pull up a chair, sit a while, and join me on the journey. I hope you'll come back often.

And now, tell me something about you!

Shelly

Guest blogging and Giveaways

Hey! I'm guest blogging over at Internet Cafe today, musing on the phrase, "God never gives you more than you can handle." Stop on over and read my thoughts. I'd love to know what you think!

And don't forget, my birthday giveaway is still going on so scroll on down and leave a comment on yesterday's post to enter. I'll pick a winner on Friday.

I'll be Bible studying and birthday partying with my friends today, so this is all I've got to give you. Go make it a good day!

Shelly

Friday Favorites - Honey Whole Wheat Bread

To kind of go along with the book review I did yesterday, I thought I'd share a recipe with you for something my family loves.

I don't just mean we love it with all small letters. We L-O-V-E with all caps this recipe.

For some reason this winter I started making bread. To be honest, Jo-Lynn was my inspiration--she's the one who introduced me to Michael Pollan and is really into healthy eating. And she bakes her own bread. Imagine.

But I got to thinking that my family would probably enjoy a slice of homemade bread every now and then, plus it's so much better for them, so I bought a bag of whole wheat flour and went to town.

Not literally--I already live in town. You know what I mean.

Anyway, the recipe I'm going to share with you came from Allrecipes.com and is really not that hard. You can do it. I know you can. I've made this about five times and it has turned out perfectly every time. (And thank goodness it cooperated this time since I was taking pictures and blogging about it and all.)

First, you mix together 3 cups of warm water with 2 packages yeast, 1/3 cup honey, and 5 cups white flour (or "bread flour" whatever that is).



Let those ingredients get happy for a while, as Emeril would say. Oh, about 30 minutes, until it's ooey and gooey.



Mix in some melted butter, another 1/3 cup honey and some salt. Here's where you need some whole wheat flour--about 3 or 4 cups.



Stir it into the rest of the dough and then knead it, adding whole wheat flour as you go until it's still slightly sticky.

(The recipe says to knead it with your hands, but this is where I pull out the trusty Kitchen Aid mixer. Even though mine is a smaller model and the dough spills up over the dough hook, it's worth it.)

Let all this mess rise for about an hour or so until it's doubled. Like this.



Shape it into three loaves and let them rise in the pans for about another hour.



Bake them. When they are done, you'll have three gorgeous loaves of whole wheat bread that your family will L-O-V-E.



Now, I hear the weather around these parts is going to be on the nasty side this weekend (don't tell anyone I said this, but the weatherman said something about little white flakes falling from the sky again. I just can't bear it, can you?), so I think it would be a very good time to practice your bread making skills. Seriously. Get the pans out and have fun.

Your family will L-O-V-E you!

Here's the recipe in case you couldn't follow what I was saying up there.

Simple Whole Wheat Bread (from Allrecipes.com)

3 cups warm water (110 degrees)
2 packages active dry yeast
1/3 C honey
5 C bread flour
3 T butter, melted
1/3 C honey
1 T salt
3 1/2 C whole wheat flour
2 T butter, melted

1. In a large bowl, mix warm water, yeast, and 1/3 C honey. Add 5 C white bread flour, and stir to combine. Let set for 30 minutes, or until big and bubbly.

2. Mix in 3 T. melted butter, 1/3 C honey, and salt. Stir in 2 C whole wheat flour. Flour a flat surface and knead with whole wheat flour until not real sticky--just pulling away from the counter, but still sticky to touch. This may take an additional 2 to 4 C of whole wheat flour. Place in a greased bowl, turning once to coat the surface of the dough. Cover with a dishtowel. Let rise in a warm place until doubled.

3. Punch down, and divide into 3 loaves. Place in greased 9x5 inch loaf pans, and allow to rise until dough has topped the pans by one inch.

4. Bake at 350 degrees F for 25 to 30 minutes; do not over bake. Lightly brush the tops of loaves with 2 T. melted butter when done to prevent crust from getting hard. Cool completely (unless you live in my house and the bread does not even make it to the cooled stage).

For a printable version of this recipe, click here.

Hey, I'm linking up to Hillary's Friday Favorites today. Hop on over there for some more favorite ideas.

Friday Favorites

Welcome to the first edition of Friday Favorites hosted by The Other Mama. Hilary wrote to me to say that she wanted to run this blog carnival every week for a while. She's leaving it kind of open-ended, so you can post about anything you want, pretty much, as long as it's a favorite.

In an effort to keep things positive (and, believe me, it feels like a Herculean effort this week), I'm posting some of my favorite finds from around the blog world this week.

For some reason, they all seem to have something to do with parenting. Hmmmmm.

Favorite quote
This comes from Kay, a mom who's in a similar stage of life as me, who wrote a great post about her son. Toward the end of her post she says this (which I needed to hear this week too):

"Young parents [and you old ones too], hang in there. Keep doing what you're doing. It matters. Your child is not a greedy vacuum for your time and energy and money. He or she is a worthy, God-sent investment."


Favorite devotional
I get the Encouragement for Today devotionals in my email every morning, and yesterday's post was just what I needed to read. Didn't hurt that it was written by Lysa, another favorite of mine.

Favorite post
As much as I talk about being intentional with my kids, this post, written by Amy Beth (who doesn't even have children of her own yet), says so much better what I'm trying to say with my series. Please read it. It's beautiful.

Favorite New Blog
I had lunch this week with my friend, Ellen, who is an accomplished author and musician and now, a blogger. Ellen wanted to pick my brain about blogging since she's brand new to this little corner of the cyber world. Go visit her (and leave a comment while you're there!)--I know it would be a huge encouragement to her.

So those are some of my favorites for this week. I think Hilary's Friday Favorites is going to be lots of fun. Head on over there to join in and to read more favorites.

Shelly

Seven Quick Takes Friday



Well, now, I haven't done a Seven Quick Takes post in a loooong while now, have I? But this week there are so many things rolling around in this little pea-sized brain of mine that I think I should just throw them all out there and see what happens.

1

Did I mention that Maggie turned 12 last week? Let me just say that if a girl was ever spoiled on her 12th birthday, it is this girl. Here's a quick recap: Blackhawks game with her dad. Skybox. Bobble Head night. Poster with her name on it. Meeting the Blackhawks president, John McDunough. Mr. McDunough leaving the box and coming back with a gift for her. Toewes t-shirt. Long-sleeved t-shirt. Hoodie. Hat. NAME IN LIGHTS UP ON THE SCOREBOARD. Need I say more?

2

I feel like I started a new job this week since I've started writing semi-seriously. Thanks to all of you who are praying me through this. It's a lot harder to make the time than I thought it would be. Believe me, the offer is still out there, so if you'd like to join my merry band of pray-ers, drop me an email and I'll add you to the list.

3

The biggest blogging conference of the year happened last weekend, and I missed it. I'll explain why in a post tomorrow (or next week), but it sure sounds like an amazing time was had by all. There are all kinds of posts going around, recaps of everyone's adventures at Blissdom, but Emily's was one of my favorites. If you read it you'll see why.

4

See this face?


This is the face of anticipation. It's the face I get every morning before Thunder the Wonder Dog and I take our walk. Some days the walk is short, but some days it's about 3 miles. Like yesterday, in 20 degree weather. But really, could you resist that face?

5

Kay offered up some great thoughts on the different stages of parenting yesterday at her place. I've recently gotten to know Kay a bit through blogging, and I have to say that she is a gem. One of those people I'd really like to meet someday. One of the few bloggers I've met who is kind of in my stage of life. Anyway, go read it. You'll like it. I promise.

6

And speaking of parenting posts . . . check back on Monday for the next in my Intentional Parenting series. In case you've missed the first couple of posts, you can find them here and here.

And while I'm talking about the IP series, I think I'm going to make that an EVERY Monday thing rather than an every-other Monday thing from here on out. I'm just afraid people will get confused by the every-other thing, as I'm sure I would if it weren't me writing the posts and deciding when to put them on my blog.

Nothing like another challenge, huh?

7

Is anyone else excited about the Olympics like we are around here? We missed the summer Olympics two years ago because we were in Switzerland at the time. It was such a bummer to get home and realize that there was only one day left of the competition and that it was Greco-Roman Wrestling or something equally obscure.

Anyway, this year we will be home and firmly planted in front of the big screen because one of our neighbors, a girl who attended the same elementary school as my girls and who goes to our church and who lives just two blocks away from us, is going to be competing! Look for Nancy Swider-Peltz, Jr. who will be competing in the women's 3000m speed skating race this Sunday. She says the competition begins at 3 p.m. Central time, but she probably won't be in the first pairing.

I'm a fan of Nancy's on Facebook, and I don't think she'd mind my sharing her blog with you all. It's a fascinating look behind the scenes at the Olympics.

Go Nancy, go!!!

Thanks to Jen at Conversion Diary for hosting Seven Quick Takes.

Shelly

2009 Recap



I'm linking up to Jo-Lynne's "2009 Blog Recap Carnival" today. Basically, I just took the first line from the first post of every month from 2009. Ahhh, a stroll down memory lane.

January
Too much . . . food . . . family . . . friends . . . fun . . . flinging of the remote controller . . . fighting the crowds at the mall . . . candy . . . cookies . . . chocolate . . . car-riding . . . Christmas lights . . . movies . . . munchies . . . merry-making . . .

A little recap of our 2008 holiday season. Fun!

February
Seems like everyone is getting into the "25 Random Things About Me" craze these days on Facebook.

My 25 random things. Come on, everybody's doing it!

March
B and I are in the throes of choosing a college.

Those college guidebooks are really funny sometimes!

April
Since we've been here, B and I and whoever wants to come have been heading down to walk the beach every morning.



Some photos from our wonderful trip to Kiawah Island, SC. Our fifth visit there did not disappoint.

May
I haven’t linked up with Jennifer at Conversion Diary for a while, but I thought today might be a good day to play “Seven Quick Takes.”

This line in this post made me laugh as I read it again: "Is Joe Biden a lunatic? Just wondering."

June
Since all two of you decided to vote on which story you'd like me to tell (I can see that my readers are an opinionated lot), here it is. I aim to please.

This is one of my funniest posts of the year, in my opinion. All about how moms embarrass their teenagers.

July
When last I left you, B and I were headed to McDonald's to get a Coke after the wedding.

Remember the Greek Wedding? This one's Part 2. To get the full story, check out Part 1 as well.

August
Ahhhhh. That's me breathing a sigh of relief and contentment to be back home from She Speaks in North Carolina.

A recap from my wonderful time in North Carolina. Whew!

September
So yesterday I mentioned that we took the girls to see Carrie Underwood on Sunday night.

Just pokin' a little fun at the hubby.

October
You may have noticed that I don't do many book reviews on here.



Here's where I reviewed Mary DeMuth's new book, A Slow Burn. Wow, what a read!

November
This week is an anniversary of sorts. For me. And for my family.

I started out November by being very, very thankful for my health. Here's where I tell the story of my unfortunate encounter with a scalpel back in 2007. I liked this post, but I really liked Part 2 better. I don't think I'll ever forget dear Marge who taught me so much.

December
This deal is just too good to keep to myself.

Sometimes blogging (or reading blogs) just pays off. Big time.

And believe me, there is more fun to be had in 2010. I'm not going anywhere (well, O.K., I am going a few places next year but what I mean is that my blogging habits will not end), so come along with me for the ride. I'm looking forward to it, and I hope you are too.

Happy New Year!

Shelly

A Look Back at 2009 Meme

I found this fun little meme at Michelle's place, "Bleeding Espresso," and thought it would be fun to do. Hope you enjoy my look back at 2009.

1. What did you do in 2009 that you’d never done before? Got an article published in a magazine.

2. Did you keep your new year’s resolutions, and will you make more for next year? I don’t really make resolutions, but I did have some goals. Some were accomplished, some weren’t. I definitely have a couple of ideas of things I’d like to do next year.

3. Did anyone close to you give birth? No. I’m kind of in that in-between stage of not giving birth but not having grandkids either (thank goodness!).

4. Did anyone close to you die? No, thank goodness.

5. What countries did you visit? I just stayed in the good old USA this year. But next year . . .

6. What would you like to have in 2010 that you lacked in 2009? A book contract.

7. What dates from 2009 will remain etched upon your memory, and why? Probably August when we took that trip to Williamsburg and Washington, D.C. (Read more here and here.)

8. What was your biggest achievement of the year? Not quitting my blog.

9. What was your biggest failure? Not writing more.

10. Did you suffer illness or injury? Again, no, thank goodness.

11. What was the best thing you bought? A car.

12. Whose behavior merited celebration? Maggie’s because she was in her first school play; Abby’s because she’s working hard and doing really well in school this year; Kate’s because she got into the only college she applied to.

13. Whose behavior made you appalled and depressed? Barack Obama’s.

14. Where did most of your money go? I have three kids. Need you ask?

15. What did you get really, really, really excited about? She Speaks.

16. What song will always remind you of 2009? I honestly don’t listen to music that much, so, sorry, I got nothin’.

17. Compared to this time last year, are you: (a) happier or sadder? (b) thinner or fatter? (c) richer or poorer? a. Happier, of course. b. Neither thinner nor fatter—just fitter. c. Richer in experience.

18. What do you wish you’d done more of? Write.

19. What do you wish you’d done less of? Laundry.

20. How did you spend Christmas? We all (my family and my sisters and their families) met up at my parents’ house in Tucson. It was fun, but certainly not warm.

21. Did you fall in love in 2009? All over again.

22. What was your favorite TV program? Probably "24," but I also liked "American Idol" and "The Biggest Loser."

23. Do you hate anyone now that you didn’t hate this time last year? Hate is so unnecessary.

24. What was the best book you read? “The Help” by Katherine Stockett

25. What was your greatest musical discovery? Taylor Swift (don’t laugh!)

26. What did you want and get? Published.

27. What did you want and not get? A Congress with half a brain.

28. What was your favorite film of this year? “Julie and Julia” hands down.

29. What did you do on your birthday, and how old were you? I went to my daughter’s orchestra concert at a local community college. It was absolutely lovely. I turned 46. *gulp*

30. What one thing would have made your year immeasurably more satisfying? To have completed that book.

31. How would you describe your personal fashion concept in 2009? Modern day housewife.

32. What kept you sane? My family.

33. Which celebrity/public figure did you fancy the most? Really?

34. What political issue stirred you the most? Oh my word, healthcare. And bailouts. And Guantanamo detainees coming to my home state. And . . .

35. Who did you miss? I always miss the ones I love who aren’t here with me—my parents, my sisters, my friends.

36. Who was the best new person you met? Oh my gosh, all the bloggers I met! Tina, Jo-Lynne, Sandy. And Lysa (even though I met her in 2008, I met her a couple more times in 2009).

37. Tell us a valuable life lesson you learned in 2009. Be still, listen, and serve.

38. Quote a song lyric that sums up your year.
Great is Thy Faithfulness.
Great is Thy Faithfulness.
Morning by morning new mercies I see.
All I have needed Thy hand has provided.
Great is Thy Faithfulness, Lord unto me.


How about you? How would you answer some of these questions? Let me know in the comments!

Shelly

Christmas at the Wild House

Welcome to our home!


Let's take a peek inside.


The stockings are ready.


The tables are set.




The tree is decorated (thanks, Maggie!).


The only thing left to do is to wish you a MERRY CHRISTMAS!!


Have a wonderful season of celebrating the birth of the Savior, Jesus.

Today I'm participating in the Nester's Christmas Tour of Homes. Pop on over there to join in the fun.

Christmas Tour of Homes with The Nester


Still Crazy . . .

Hillary, "The Other Mama," is hosting a blog carnival today with an interesting theme . . . Crazy.

Oh, there are so many ways you could go with this. You could post crazy pictures of your children. You could talk about the craziest thing you did in high school. You could share your craziest dream.

Hillary said anything goes.

So, if anything goes, I'm going to share some of the craziest stories that I've heard about in just the past few days. Because I don't know about you, but sometimes I feel like the world has gone absolutely nuts.






  • It's crazy that size 12 is being considered a plus-size. Puh-leeze. My friend, Jo-Lynne, wrote about that this week.



  • It's crazy that the Blackhawks came back from a 5-0 deficit to beat the Calgary Flames 6-5 on Monday. (Sorry, just had to throw that one in there for any men who might possibly be reading.)



  • And here's a really crazy story about funding for college that we saw on the news a couple of nights ago. The really crazy part is that colleges are giving scholarships to "undocumented students." Doesn't that mean they are here illegally? Could someone please explain to me why these people get money to help pay for college when lots of people who live here legally can't get a single cent?

I could go on and on about the craziness all around us. But I've already written a post about it called "It's All Kinds of Crazy Out There" and you can read it by clicking here. I hope you'll do that and find just a little bit of encouragement to counter all the crazy.


After you've read that one, head over to Hillary's place where you'll find all sorts of craziness going on.




And the winner is . . .

Congratulations to Emily at The Pilot's Wife who won the $25 Starbucks gift card! And here's the cool thing . . . she gave something away on the Blog Hop too. Except that her giveaway was something a little bigger and better than a $25 Starbucks gift card. She was giving away a thrill ride in her husband's airplane.

Yeah! No kidding!

Now, I'm no believer in karma, but I do believe in paying it forward, so I guess this is Emily's reward for giving out such a great gift.

Congratulations, Emily!

Welcome to the Blog Hop AND My Seven Quick Takes




Hey, I’m killing two birds with one stone today, and I sincerely hope that's not offensive--forgive my ignorance if it is. I’m participating in the usual Seven Quick Takes, sponsored by Jennifer at Conversion Diary, and I’m also participating in Robin’s Blog Hop. Try real hard not to be confused here.

Jennifer has us list seven random things about our week, and Robin wants us to introduce ourselves to new bloggy friends. So, in honor of both of these wonderful women who have figured out Mr. Linky and actually use him, I’m giving you seven snippets of information about me. Welcome to my Life on the Wild Side!

1. I’ve been blogging for a little over a year now, and I’m not tired of it yet. In fact, I love it! And the reasons I started the blog still stand today. I still, however, have very few followers, so if you’d like to follow me it would make me over-the-moon happy.

2. My tagline, “Because every day is an adventure” is so true! My kids get sick of hearing it, but you can see for yourself here and here and here.

3. I’m married to my college sweetheart, B. I am the luckiest woman in the world to have found a friend and partner like him.

4. I have three daughters who keep me on my toes. My oldest is looking for a college right now and reminds me on a regular basis that one year from now she’ll be gone. Believe me, I am more than aware of this.

5. I have some wonderful friends who also keep me on my toes. I am blessed beyond belief to have a small group that cares about me and Amy who feeds me.

6. Cooking relaxes me and makes me happy. So does Food Network. You can check out a couple of my favorite recipe posts here and here.

7. I enjoy giving things away, so if you’ve read to the bottom of this post and leave me a comment telling me one thing you and I have in common, I’ll enter you in my $25 Starbucks gift card giveaway. Just make sure I have your email address so I can get in touch with you if you win.

Thanks for stopping by and please . . . come again!

Seven Quick Takes Friday


Friday? Already? The summer weeks fly, which is why I’m wimping out today and joining Jen’s Seven Quick Takes.

Actually, that’s not wimping out at all because I have to come up with seven interesting things about my week. This is going to be a challenge.

1

I finally went to the pool yesterday. June 25, and it was my first day at the pool. When my girls were younger I’d be at the pool every day, but now I imagine I’ll get there maybe once a week. If that.

There are a couple of reasons for my pool absence. First, the weather around here has been terrible. First it was cold—really cold—for a long time. Then, this week, it popped into the upper 90s. Ridiculous. B told me that I’m getting what I wished for, but I argued that I wasn’t wishing for it to be 100. Somehow God forgot about the 80’s.

Anyway, the second reason I haven’t been at the pool much is because I just don’t need to be there anymore. The older two don’t go to the pool, and Maggie is eleven and doesn’t need me to be there with her. Yesterday I went because I promised her I’d go, and, believe me, that girl will hold you to a promise like Crazy Glue sticks to your fingers. So I ended up at the pool.

And you know what I noticed? The moms have gotten younger. And skinnier. It’s gross. I’m not sure I’ll go back.

(Just kidding about that last part. I’ll go back . . . because I like a little tan in the summer and right now I look like I’ve jumped into a flour barrel.)

2

I checked my Sitemeter yesterday and noticed that several of you checked back a few times to see if I’d written anything. How sweet of you. I do love my readers.

Do you know there’s a super-easy way for you to know if I’ve written anything or not? It’s called Google Reader and it’s easy to use. You can set it up with all your favorite blogs, it will automatically bring up my blog for you every time there’s an update. Check it out and put me in there! Please? Or, if you already have a blog, follow me. I love stalkers. Of the bloggy kind anyway.

3



So did you hear the news yesterday? Farah Fawcett died. I’ll be honest, I was never a huge fan of hers, but I felt kind of sad that she suffered so long and that Ryan O’Neil never had a chance to make good on his promise earlier this week to marry her.

I wonder if her hair style will make a comeback now. It’s already pretty popular with the blond chicks on Fox News.



Oh yeah, and Michael Jackson died too.

4

Have I mentioned my workout group? Have I mentioned that I’m sore? It’s the good sore, but still, every day I’m sore. I think underneath that sweet exterior, our trainer has an inner beast who wants to torment middle-aged women into getting into shape. But it’s fun, and it’s wonderful to have some accountability on those mornings that you just don’t want to get out of bed. Like this morning.

How about you? Do you have a group that holds you accountable? Do you like that or does it seem like an unnecessary burden?

5

O.K. Jon and Kate. I just have to say something. Because their show used to be a favorite around here and there are more than a couple of hearts that are sad because of what they are going through. But I won’t take an entire blog post to talk about them–that’s been done ad nauseum. All I will say is that their situation has given us many teachable moments with our kids lately, and one such moment came on Monday night as we, along with about 10.6 million other people, watched the sorry state of affairs come to a devastating conclusion.

We listened throughout the show as time after time both parents said things like, “I’m there for my kids” or “We love our kids and want what’s best for them.” Sure, they love their kids, and sure they want what's best for them--we all do--but as they were going on and on about the kids, it became obvious that something had gotten very topsy-turvy in their world. B looked at our own girls and said, “They put their kids ahead of their marriage. Girls, I want you to know that my relationship with your mom is more important to me than you are.”

Wow. If that isn’t enough to make your head turn.

But he’s right. I know he is. And I want my children to know that they don’t own the relationship hierarchy around here. If you’ll grant me a soapbox for a moment . . . Kids feel secure when Mom and Dad love each other. Period. And Mom and Dad can’t love each other best when they put the kids first.

Done.

6

There’s a blog I read sometimes that I enjoy immensely every time I go there. It’s called Stuff Christians Like and it’s kind of a tongue in cheek look at the evangelical world. The writer, Prodigal Jon, makes some very funny, but also very poignant insights into Christianity.

Last week he wrote a post that just made me laugh out loud. Since I have high schoolers, and since I was once a high schooler myself, I could totally relate to his list of The 11 People Every Youth Group Needs. Check it out. It’s funny.

7

I just feel like I have bloggy issues. It’s probably the weather, but for some reason I’ve had a headache for a couple of days that just will not go away. And writer’s block. Ugh.

Can you help a girl out? What would you like to read about?

Happy Weekend, everyone! We'll be busy this weekend, so you won't hear from me until Monday. But be sure to check back then because B and I are going to a real, live Big Fat Greek Wedding this weekend, and I'm sure I'll have a lot to report.

I'm Curious . . .

Robin, over at Pensieve, is having a little blog party. She's asked everyone to post their one all-time favorite post and to link up with others who have done the same.

I chose one, but before I tell you which one I chose (of course, you could head over to Robin's to find out), I'm curious . . . which post of mine would YOU choose?

Something funny? Something serious? Something that made you cry or even think a little bit?

Since I've been doing this for a year now, there are quite a lot of blog posts to choose from. Would you be so kind as to leave me a comment telling me which post YOU'D choose to share with Robin? And if you've never left a comment before, shame on you! Now is the time to start.

I'll let you know later on today which one I actually used.

Seven Quick Takes Friday

It's been a few weeks, huh? I love doing the Seven Quick Takes, so I'm trying it again. Thanks to Jen at Conversion Diary for hosting this fun event. (By the way, if you want to read a post that will really make you cry, read this one that Jen wrote this week.)

So, on with the show!


1

I just cringe to think about how judgemental I was of other parents when my kids were young. Honestly. Back then I couldn't even imagine how some families could not manage to eat dinner together every night.

Pass the crow, I'm suddenly feeling very hungry.

Not only do we NOT manage to eat dinner together every night, we're pretty lucky if we get to eat dinner together a couple of nights a week. What with one girl working every day and another one taking driver's ed every night and both of them busy with schoolwork and church stuff. And then that little one has her stuff too sometimes--especially at this time of year. Life is crazy, I tell you. Just plain crazy.

But tonight the stars aligned and we all managed to have our knees under the same table at the same time. Six thirty, to be precise.

And, can I just tell you, we had such a great time talking together that we didn't even get up from the table until 7:45 when the phone rang. Otherwise I think we'd still be sitting there.


2

When we get going like we did tonight, having dinner with a bunch of girls is kind of like watching Wimbledon. The conversation gets passed from one end of the table to another--really fast. And the topics switch just as quickly. It's truly an amazing sight.

So amazing, in fact, that B mostly just sits there and watches. It's tough being a man in this house, let me tell you.

Especially when one of your children truly believes that talking is her gift.


3

I never quite understood why our schools stay open past Memorial Day. Really. Nothing . . . and I do mean NOTHING . . . gets done after Memorial Day.

I don't blame the teachers for this, truly I don't. They are trying their best to keep kids engaged in learning, but when the weather gets a little nicer (not that it's been nice this week, but try to imagine it with me if you can) the kids just zone out.

So they try to plan a few activities to make the days until the "Last Day" a little more bearable. I so would not want to be a teacher at this time of year.

Especially a teacher to 5th graders who are already antsy because they are thinking about how they're leaving the school, heading to greener pastures, and are just plain outta there. Fifth graders need an extra dose of "stay-with-me" at this time of year.

Our blessed teachers have done their very best to keep the kids busy. They've helped with their kindergarten buddies a lot, taken extra gym time, basically tried to keep the wiggles out. So tomorrow is a special treat. A big day of no learning whatsoever. They are taking the kids to the pool.

Everyone is so excited (boy, I hope the weather breaks for this one), especially, according to Maggie, the girl who bragged all day that she got a bikini. I'm sure none of the 5th grade boys will notice.


4

For the longest time Abby has been wanting the Wii Fit system, so she used some of her birthday money and waited for the thing to go on sale and bought herself a Wii Fit. Which she is so nicely sharing with the rest of the family.

I've had fun watching everyone move and groove on the balance board. The games look like fun. You can even pretend you're in the Alps on a ski slope. Transport me, baby!

But have I stepped on it yet? No way. I knew that little board was just a scale in disguise, so I have stayed away from it.

Until tonight. I guess it must have been the wine we had with dinner, or the laughter, whatever. I was feeling daring, so I ventured onto the Wii Fit board.

You know what? Wii Fit is my friend. For someone who was expecting a fitness age of about 83, I was pleasantly surprised to learn that I am very nearly as fit as my age. (Not sure if that last sentence made sense, but there you go.) And my BMI, I am very happy to report, is in the normal range. Would I even mention this to you if I had failed the body test--are you kidding? No, I would not. But I'm a happy girl and may even venture onto the Wii Fit again . . . in about a month.


5

If you know me, you know I keep busy. I volunteer . . . a lot . . . and I take on too much responsibility within those volunteer positions. In the past year I have had five different commitments at church alone. Three of those have come to an end. Two I'm happy to continue next year.

I have also served as our school district's PTA scholarship chairperson for the past three years. It's been great fun, but I can't serve any more because I'll have a senior next year and how would that look if I handed my own kid a scholarship? Hmmm. Come to think of it, would that be so wrong?

Anyway, today was a happy day because I handed my Scholarship Chair notebook off to the next chairperson. Like I said, I enjoyed this responsibility a lot, but it was time to be done with it, and I'm glad to have emptied the spot on the floor near the computer that was holding all of my scholarship stuff. It's just plain freeing to hand stuff over to the next person. Ahhhh.


6

Now that American Idol is over, along with Biggest Loser and 24, we've been wondering what we'd watch in the evenings. (Pathetic, I know.) So tonight, while flipping through the channels, Maggie and I found the most gripping television drama that we've seen for a long time.

The National Spelling Bee.

Zzzzzzz. Oh, sorry, I must have dozed off while some kid was spelling "avoirdupois" or "sagacious" or "olla podrida."

Really, kids, GET A LIFE!!

And, ABC, you need to get a life too. And stop treating the National Spelling Bee like some kind of intense athletic event. It's a spelling bee! Good grief!

Next thing you know the commercials will feature bikini-clad women selling beer to minors.

We did just have to laugh though, because apparently the kids can ask a few questions about the word before they actually dig in and, you know, spell it.

Questions like "What is the origin of this word?"

"Could you please use this word in a sentence?"

"Is there an alternate pronunciation?"

"What part of speech is it?"

Hey kids, why don't you just try this one: "Could you spell that for me please?"



7

So, you want to know what we talked about during this amazing dinnertime tonight? Tell you what, I'm going to give you a list of topics, then I want you to vote on which one you'd like me to tell you about, and I'll expand on it in the next post. Blog fodder. It's a good thing.

Comments are always good too (hint, hint).

So, here you go. Make sure to vote early and often (this IS Chicago, you know!).

* How I want to be BFFs with Kate and Abby's Spanish teacher. From the stories I've heard, that woman sounds like someone I would seriously like to hang out with.

* Reminiscing about the girls' 4th grade teacher and how two of the girls had to make true confessions to her during their time in her class.

* "Life papers"

* How I called one of the teenagers' friends by his only-known-to-them nickname by mistake.

* Laughing like crazy over all of our different laughs.

So there you go. Topics galore. Let me know which one you'd like to hear about, and I'll do it. Or suggest something else. I'm feeling dauntless, indomitable, tenacious, ebullient . . .